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So now that I've decided that I'm going to Tribal Con in February (a big deal for me, I live in New York, get lost easily and have never flown alone) I'm getting nervous. I bought the tickets so I can't back out which is probably a good thing so now I have to do it. I've never been to anything larger than a local workshop. I'm not worried about not being able to complete the workshops as far as skill (I'm twenty and I've been belly dancing since I was fourteen) I'm just afraid my head will get in the way. A few of the women I dance with now are larger and it makes me feel better to not look like the hippo dancing with the crocodile. I'm somewhat shy and I don't really 'put myself out there' to meat new people. I have this constant voice in my head telling me that they all think I'm a 'fake belly dancer' because I'm not tiny, muscular and compact and that I shouldn't have wasted my time coming. Logically I know that few if any people are really thinking that, but logic has never stopped my mental tirades before.
Oh and there is that fact that there is a very good chance I'll get lost in Atlanta... and I am soooooo not a city person.
Does anyone have any advice for me? Has anyone been to Tribal Con? Is there usually a mix in body types? Any ideas for getting over myself?
Oh and there is that fact that there is a very good chance I'll get lost in Atlanta... and I am soooooo not a city person.
Does anyone have any advice for me? Has anyone been to Tribal Con? Is there usually a mix in body types? Any ideas for getting over myself?
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Re: Workshop advice
Wed, December 3, 2008 - 9:54 AMI haven't been to that particular workshop, but the ones I have gone to, there seems to be a wide range of body types, ages & skill levels. Don't worry, you're not going to stick out in a bad way or anything. In fact, I find that most people are very friendly & eager to get to know new people. As for getting around Atlanta, I would jsut plan on brining enough money for cab rides -- rely on them to get you where you need to go. Good luck & have fun!
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Re: Workshop advice
Wed, December 3, 2008 - 12:10 PMOh--Alecia-- First off, I live in Atlanta and get lost all the time so no worries!! Plus, you really don't have to venture far from the hotel and if you do, you should have no trouble finding your way back. Trust me.
Any secondly, I can relate to your "hangup" but not in the same way as you. I'll just put it out there--I'm not a big beautiful belly dancer but that does not mean I don't have hangups about my body and for me belly dance has been the cure. I have had 3 kids and lets just say things don't stay where they are supposed to but one thing I have learned in this past year is that it is not the package we travel through life in but the way we move through life that matters. YOu don't need to worry about other women looking at you because in my experience some of them are probably worried about you looking at them when in fact the only ones we are really looking at are the instructors. :)
I've only been to one other workshop in August. Southern Fusion FEst and I took classes with Mardi Love, Moria and Zafira Dance and it was the best experience. The women were from different dance backgrounds, different ethnic backgrounds, old, young, in between, and the range of body types was wonderful. From the very heavy, to heavy, to slim, muscular, to not so muscular from tall to short you name it. So no worries there either--we are all in it together. Ones who can play zills--ones who can't. haha!!
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Re: Workshop advice
Wed, December 3, 2008 - 8:09 PMCongratulations on venturing out into the big wide world of bellydance! You will love it, I am sure.
I run the Las Vegas Bellydance Intensive, and I can tell you that most events like Tribal Con, Tribal Fest, Yaa Halla Y'All, etc...all have dancers of every shape and size. In fact, at my event, we pride ourselves on diversity...so we have BBB in the show and as instructors. Don't worry. Just go. Have a blast! Enjoy yourself. It'll be stellar!! -
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Wed, December 3, 2008 - 8:19 PMHow exciting. You just have cold feet. Don't worry, it's normal. It will expand your comfort zone. And if all the bbw's hide and don't go to events, we are sending the message that we don't belong out there in the belly dancing world. When you go, you give courage to others that were nervous about going.
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Re: Workshop advice
Thu, December 4, 2008 - 10:43 AMWhile I haven't been to that particular event, in general I've found that people are pretty friendly and there are dancers of all sizes, ages and skills. Just smile and be confident. Wear something that makes you feel pretty.
Harsh reality - not everyone is going to like you - size, race, you have blue eyes, whatever. That's their issue. You don't have to buy into it.
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Sat, December 6, 2008 - 11:28 AMGo and have fun! Many people will be nervous for many different reasons. Most people are there to learn and have fun, just like you are. I've found that they will be excited and friendly, and worried about learning, not noticing what size you are.
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Mon, December 8, 2008 - 3:53 PMI haven't been there, but I know people who usually go. I've never heard any complaints about people not accepting them due to size.
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Mon, December 8, 2008 - 5:17 PMHi Alecia,
I LOVE TribalCon.
I have been going to TribalCon since the first "IceCon" (short version of the story, essentially an ice storm causing power failures canceled the first day, and everything has to be moved around to happen in one day!)
I lived in Florida and was able to drive up each year, except I just moved to Alaska this year (a long time dream) and though we are in the midst of recovering financially and physcially from a 4700 mile move, and also trying to buy a house, somehow I plan to get there - I guess need to buy a plane ticket that is non refundable :)
There are women (and men!!) of every color, shape, size and ability at this con. It is more like a big family gathering, where you sweat a lot, spend a lot of money (If you like shopping for 'SHINY THINGS'), and go home exhausted, but fulfilled.
My website (perlgurl.net), which is currently semi-down, had photos and write ups of the first three times I went to TribalCon, and though I am not a great writer or anything, it has been referenced by Ziah frequently :)
I'll see if I can dig up my old site with the write ups later tonight....
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Re: Workshop advice
Tue, December 9, 2008 - 9:07 AMTribalCon - Year 1
perlgurl.net/events/2005tribalcon/
TribalCon - Year 2
perlgurl.net/events/2006...8_Tribalcon/
I swear I wrote up year 3 but I didn't didn't didn't find it. I'll look again tonight/tomorrow.
And gack, right now airfare is around $900 to get to HotLanta from Alaska. I better start shopping for a deal! -
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Mon, December 15, 2008 - 9:12 PMYou are comming though? I don't wanna do Tribalcon w/o you! -
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Tue, December 16, 2008 - 1:03 PMRyanne,
We just put an offer on a house. If it goes through, I have to admit there is n way I can afford airfare to TribalCon. That makes me very sad :(
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Re: Workshop advice
Sun, December 14, 2008 - 5:43 PMAlecia just smack that little voice in the back of your head and tell him/ her to shut up. im sure you'll be great! being a larger dancer can be intimidating. i recently had the honor of Performing in Shadowdance in Oakland and i was the ONLY large bellydancer there. i did feel WAY out of my league there but i had to check myself and remind myself that i wouldnt have been invited to do the show if i wasnt skilled enough to do it. sometimes it's all a mind game with yourself. force yourself to say hi to someone new and perhaps they will be a life long friend!!!! i wish you much luck and lots of self love! :) I have also taught at the Las Vegas Bellydance intensive!!! hi Samira! :)
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Re: Workshop advice
Mon, December 15, 2008 - 9:11 PMI live outside of Atlanta and will be at Tribalcon! Don't freak out!!! As with the size bit, there are plenty of great larger sized bellydancers out there. But I will admit, I sometimes get those thoughts myself. But if you're in need of anything, don't hesitate to ask me!