You go girl!! I'm happy for you. I can relate about dancing in front of him. I've been happily married for 34 years and I have yet to dance just for my beloved. It's a very vulnerable thing, like exposing your soul.
Do you have a performance coming up you can invite him to?

I agree with these girls! Invite him to a performance, then just grit your teeth and do your thing. I can just about guarantee that if he is as awesome as he sounds, he will be grinning from ear to ear, loving it! After that, it's hard not to be enthusiastic about dancing in front of someone you know enjoys it so much. :)

Do you dannce at home for the sheer plesure of it? Next time you expect him over, leave a note on the door to come on in. Start dancing for yourself about 20 minutes before he's due over. By that time, you'll be in your own inner as well as outer dance, he'll come upon your dancing without you having to "dance for him". My husband says the dance he loves most is when he comes into the studio & I'm lost in dance & dancing for my own pleasure. He says it's different that when he watches me choreograph. He says that there's just something about wathcing a woman dance for her self enjoyment that is so different from her performing. He says it it's mezmerising because it comes form some place that the public never gets to see in a performance. So - dance for yourself and invite him to chance upon this monent. Don't even scknowledge him until the music stops. He'll experince a moment to treasure..

I agree...invite him to a performance. Things are totally different on stage than practicing at home. The costume, the hair, the makeup...everything adds to the performance, and suddenly he is seeing you as a dancer, and not his sweetie playing around in the livingroom. My husband watched me and a few girls from the troupe practice at our house for two months. There we were in our sweats and tank tops, hair in a bun or tied back under a scarf, laughing at our screw ups, not worried about making strange faces, dog running around our feet. He was floored when he saw us on stage the first time....and very proud.

I have to confess, I kept the bellydancing to myself at first. My husband knew I was taking the classes, of course (it was hard to hide the jingling of the hip scarf), but I never practiced at home and definitley NOT in front of him. I was still too new to bellydancing, and it was all so soul-bearing, I had a hard time sharing it with anyone. That, and he just didn't seem that interested. When I was asked to perform for the first time, I asked him if he wanted to go. To my great surprise, he said yes. Then he started asking me questions about what I was doing, what my music was, etc. He even had suggestions! What was really hysterical was I actually chose a song he had found to perform to, because I fell in love with it. Now, he's my helper in so many ways. I sound off music ideas, wardrobe, and even practice my performance pieces in front of him, since I know I can get an honest critique from him. My husband comes to all of my performances, and it is so comforting to know that I have at least one fan in the audience!

My hubby makes it EASY...

he comes, and talks to my friends hubby!!! AHAHAHAH

He comes to bd performance stuff to support me, but its not really his "thing"...

ahah

he's a good guy...

Why is it so much harder to get dressed up and dance for a guy than it is to get nekkid and sweaty with one? I know exactly what you mean!

It was a while before my hubs came to see me dance but I would practice for him. He says it's fun to watch me having fun. And I get to flirt with him from the stage like he's a stranger... what a turn on!

I think it's really a little mind game you'll have to play with yourself. But I really believe if your having a good time then he'll enjoy watching.

Congratulations! He sounds like a nice guy. I agree with what almost everyone else has said. Invite him to a performance. Supposing you're in a troupe, you'll have the other girls there, to help you feel more comfortable about the idea of it, not to mention your audience.

That's what I did, before I broke up. I invited him to the rehearsal beforehand, and performance later. I had to almost drag him with. That should've told me something, I suppose. At dress rehearsal I thought it was really special, I'd make eye contact and flirt with him. Then I noticed he'd stepped out. I found out later that he'd stepped out to talk on the phone with his married, female friend. As it turns out his married female friend became pregnant and has recently had a baby. Her own father seems to think that her baby might belong to my ex instead of the girl's husband.

Anyways I know it doesn't really tie into this thread, but yes, with the right person dancing for someone, or including someone in on a performance can be a very special thing for him and you.